Hey there, I’m Ray.
I’ve spent over a decade in the fitness and wellness industries searching for answers to a painful chronic condition I was convinced was “all in my head” by almost everyone I trusted to help me.
Since my early 20’s I was living with Interstitial Cystitis and the pain of a kidney stone lodged in the lining of my bladder, only knowing what it’s like to live pain-free since May 2018. In 2011, when things were at their worst, I made a promise to myself.
“If I ever get better, I will become the guy I’ve been looking for all these years”.
I had just woken up on the bathroom floor after passing out again from the pain and exhaustion of my condition. If the metabolic disorders, chronic pelvic pain, disabling fatigue, and brain fog weren’t enough. Then there’s the guilt of living with this kind of condition and trying not to burden anyone else, while still needing to ask for help. It’s a balancing act like nothing I ever want to experience again.
Living with daily invisible chronic pain and everything that accompanies it, is something I’m very familiar with.
What I didn’t fully understand was the role of stress in my experience with illness and in 2010 I came home from work one Tuesday morning to find my fiance’ paralyzed and suddenly unable to communicate.
This was her initial episode of Multiple Sclerosis and I was fully unprepared to deal with it. Soon after, we split up and I would continue to go down a rabbit hole of illness that would take me years to recover from.
Not because I wasn’t trying as hard as humanly possible, but because it seemed no one understood that I was already at my limits, and I didn’t have room for more of anything. I needed someone to meet me where I was and help me from there, not where they expected me to start.
I couldn’t find anyone to help me the way I needed to be helped, so I committed myself 100% to getting well by emerging myself into the fitness and wellness industries, looking through the eyes of someone that lives with chronic pain and unexplained illness every day.